David Sheedy — An Amateur’s Guide to Being, Part 1

As a reg­u­lar read­er of Into the Cen­tre I’ve appre­ci­at­ed the insights pro­vid­ed by the beard­ed gnome who runs the place (Hi Wayne!) Occa­sion­al­ly, I’ve sug­gest­ed to him that it is some­times hard to iden­ti­fy with what he is say­ing, as he is such a ‘pro’ at it. “How can an ama­teur like me iden­ti­fy with this?”, I said.

When he fin­ished laugh­ing, he sug­gest­ed I get over myself and just be.

Okay. Be that way.

And as an ama­teur at all this I thought I’d be pro-active and share some of the things I am find­ing out on the way to being

  1. It isn’t lin­ear. I like a nice steady pro­gres­sion. If I’m learn­ing a new song on gui­tar I like that I start off sound­ing awful, and grad­u­al­ly get bet­ter. Even­tu­al­ly the song is worth lis­ten­ing to. ‘Being’ is anoth­er mat­ter. One day I can feel like I ‘get it’ and the next I’m clue­less. I frus­trate myself over not being evolved every day. All the time. Con­tin­u­ous­ly. Instead, I’ve come to the real­iza­tion that what­ev­er state I find myself in only applies to this day, this moment, and does­n’t guar­an­tee that I’ll build on it (though I do occasionally.) 

  2. Don’t make a reli­gion out of a moment. See point #1. I’ve wast­ed much time attempt­ing to build a belief sys­tem out of a brief moment of rev­e­la­tion. So much time, in fact, that what­ev­er epiphany I had in the moment gets lost in the rush to put struc­ture around it. Lo and behold!! When I let the moment occur and then let it go I don’t lose anything!

  3. I get in my own way. It was so much eas­i­er when it was every­one else’s fault that some­thing did­n’t work for me. This whole ‘I’m self-respon­si­ble’ thing means that I am in my own way.I don’t get it?I must not want to.I find it dif­fi­cult to grasp a concept?Well, why would I choose to make it dif­fi­cult? I’ve learned to ask “how am I get­ting in my own way this time?“I don’t always know the answer to that, AND at least remind myself that it IS about me.

  4. Laugh­ing beats frus­tra­tion. When I get con­fused, or real­ize I’m in a famil­iar pat­tern, or catch myself blam­ing some­one else, frus­tra­tion usu­al­ly ensued. I don’t laugh at myself eas­i­ly (and I don’t much like it when you do it either, thanks for ask­ing), so frus­tra­tion seemed the ‘best way’ to go. Guess what? Laugh­ing at myself is a lot eas­i­er on the soul. This may come eas­i­ly to some of you; good on ya. Not to me.I’ve even tak­en to ask­ing my fam­i­ly to delib­er­ate­ly laugh at me when I get angry about some­thing stu­pid (in oth­er words, when­ev­er I get angry.) It’s a con­stant reminder that it just isn’t worth all the energy.

  5. I can’t ‘do’ being. Lord knows I’ve tried. Did the cours­es, read the books, con­sult­ed with the Gurus.I’ve often asked Wayne whether my Body­work was ‘good’ or ‘bad’. He wise­ly says noth­ing. He knows that if he tells me that one piece of Body­work is bet­ter than anoth­er, then I’ll expend way too much ener­gy in try­ing to DO good Body­work, instead of BEING in my body.Same with being itself. I keep look­ing for the exam­ple, the demon­stra­tion, the video of how to ‘do’ being. Turns out I have to ‘be’ with­out a man­u­al. THAT sucks.

I’ve five more to add in, but I’ll wait until Wayne approves these (maybe next week??)

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