The Chakras and Psychotherapy — 6th chakra

On Really, Really Seeing 

The sixth Chakra is locat­ed between the eye­brows, at the “third eye” loca­tion, and also includes the “zone” con­tain­ing the ears, nose and the pineal and pitu­itary glands. This is such an inter­est­ing Chakra, and its “skill set” embod­ies what we attempt to teach and prac­tice through our Open Palm Solu­tions. The Chakra embod­ies clear sight­ed­ness, insight and con­scious non-attachment. 

Here’s a quote from Car­olyn Myss’ Anato­my of the Spir­it: (an excel­lent book! order it from Ama­zon in Cana­da, or the US )

In becom­ing con­scious one is able to detach from sub­jec­tive per­cep­tions and see the truth or sym­bol­ic mean­ing in a sit­u­a­tion. Detach­ment does not mean ceas­ing to care. It means still­ing one’s fear-dri­ven voic­es. One who has attained an inner pos­ture of detach­ment has a sense of self so com­plete that exter­nal influ­ences have no author­i­ty with­in his or her consciousness.
Pg 239 

As Mary J. Blige tells us:

No More Drama

Mary J. Blige

Ooh, It feels so good
When you let go of all the dra­ma in your life
Now you’re free from all the pain
Free from all the games
Free from all the pain
Free from all the stress
To find your happiness

I don’t know
Only God knows where the sto­ry ends for me
But I know where the sto­ry begins
It’s up to us to choose
Whether we win or loose

And I choose to win

For many peo­ple, hav­ing dra­ma in their lives is like hav­ing smack in your veins. It’s a rush, a vibe, an over­whelm­ing feel­ing. Their reac­tion to life (to the dra­ma they are cre­at­ing) becomes the be-all and end-all of their exis­tence. I sus­pect that this hap­pens, much like with drugs, because peo­ple con­fuse agi­ta­tion and stress with being alive.

I had a client who had been through a series of set­backs, both with a lover and at work (the “lover dra­ma” led to her stress­ing out and hav­ing to take time off from work.) 

One day, her first back to work, she came in for a ses­sion. I asked her about her work-day. She said that it had been OK. Then, she men­tioned that her ex had called and that this had “ruined her whole day.” 

With­in a sec­ond, she’d sunk into the couch, put her head down, began to pout and to sigh and to refuse to make eye contact.

Then she said, 

“My life has been a total dis­as­ter ever since I met that guy.”

I said, “Would you tell me again how your work-day was?”

“I told you, it was fine.”

“So, your life is a total dis­as­ter except for the 8 hours you just spent at work?”

Her head came up and she glared at me. Then her face relaxed into a smile. She said, “I real­ly do have to get over myself. After he called I talked to two of my friends at work and told them what was going on, and they said, “Oh, poor you.” I real­ly liked that. I need to stop try­ing to make peo­ple fell sor­ry for me, or I’m nev­er going to get past this.”

It really did happen that fast.

Clear sight­ed­ness is all about inner aware­ness. It’s about look­ing inside and stay­ing present with what I’m doing in there. I talk about all of this at length in my book­let, The Watch­er.

I just sent an e‑mail with a cou­ple of great one-lin­ers to a friend (hey, David!) and I fol­lowed one with, “God, I’m cute.” He replied,

Well, here we go — may you nev­er lose your self-delu­sion around your own cuteness.

To which I would reply, “Of course it’s about how I see myself. Oth­er­wise, I’d have writ­ten, “Aren’t I cute?” I am sim­ply acknowl­edg­ing what I already know about myself, in my opin­ion.”

The detach­ment piece takes into con­sid­er­a­tion the per­spec­tives of oth­ers (Jock and Ben call my writ­ing “per­spec­tiviz­ing” — I love that.) What it does­n’t do is give undue val­ue to the per­spec­tives of oth­ers. Detach­ment is about let­ting go of the need to cre­ate dra­ma in order to feel charge, and is about self-reflec­tion with feed­back, with­out adopt­ing, holus bolus, the opin­ions and per­spec­tives of others.

Most peo­ple fail at detach­ment because they want to be noticed (and approved of) and/or they want to be right. This pos­ture might be called “out-sight” as opposed to insight. It is a char­ac­ter­is­tic of the sec­ond Chakra. In a sense, it’s see­ing with the gen­i­tals. Fit­ting in, lead­ing, being impor­tant, becomes the goal. Dra­ma becomes the tool. And in the end, the only thing actu­al­ly going on is what you think is going on.

In the lyrics, above, Blige talks about being free from the games, pain and stress. Not to put words into her mouth, but being free, to me, is not the same as no games, pain or stress. In oth­er words, pain, games and stres­sors will always be a part of my human exis­tence. The ques­tion is: what will I do with them? Will I dra­ma­tize them, or let them go? If I let them go, I am free from the need to define my life in terms of pain, stress or games.

Ram Dass once said, as a metaphor, that being human is like being required to have a red-hot rock placed in your hand. Your choic­es are two: grasp the rock tight­ly and burn the whole hand, or keep your hand open and only burn a small spot. The wise soul holds life loosely.

The sixth Chakra is about wis­dom and insight. It is about let­ting go. It is about seek­ing after truth — your truth — relent­less­ly and with verve. As Myss puts it:

Con­scious­ness it the abil­i­ty to release the old and embrace the new with the aware­ness that all things end at the appro­pri­ate time and that all things begin at the appro­pri­ate time. This truth is dif­fi­cult to learn to live with because human beings seek sta­bil­i­ty — the absence of change. There­fore becom­ing con­scious means liv­ing ful­ly in the present moment, know­ing that no sit­u­a­tion or per­son will be exact­ly the same tomor­row. Pg. 241 

As an aside, one thing I’ve noticed about the sixth Chakra area is what peo­ple “do” with it. In our cul­ture, there is a ten­den­cy to want to have answers, to fig­ure things out, to “get the right answers.” (Hint: there are none.) Many peo­ple fear let­ting go, drop­ping the dra­ma and find­ing a place of detached obser­va­tion. You can tell when some­one is “going there” — they get a crease between their eyebrows.

worry line

Think of it like this: the third eye is like a ‘sixth sense’ (fun­ny how the num­bers match up, eh?) loca­tor. What’s “real­ly” going on, what Myss calls the “sym­bol­ic mean­ing” of events, is deter­mined with the mind, and in a sense, through the sixth Chakra. 

Now, here’s the analogy. Think of the skin as like a window. If the skin is clear and smooth, you can see through it easily. If it’s wrinkled like crumpled cellophane, it’s harder to see through it, and the data is distorted. Many people don’t want full responsibility for their lives, so they need to distort data to match their pre-conceived notions. Think of the client mentioned above. As soon as she went to “my life sucks,” she wrinkled her brow. Hmm.

This week, think about how you choose to per­ceive your own real­i­ty. Are you a dra­ma junkie? Are you unwill­ing to drop the dra­ma and the charge, lest (you fear) you’ll feel noth­ing at all? What does detach­ment mean for you? What would it be like to live life with­out judg­ing oth­ers — with­out try­ing to change oth­ers? What would it be like to “hold the red-hot rock lightly?

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